Been Away and now An Interview

It's been awhile since my last online visits and email checks for i was busy during the Christmas and New Year holidays, baking and taking care of the boys (Sami has colds.) I am happy to receive The Questions from khadijateri on the Interview meme which i joined. It is fun and other than sending me into an introspection, i also remembered my lack of knowledge in blogging. So to Khadijateri, kindly correct some of the instructions which i did not follow quite well. :)

Here are my questions:
1. What made you decide to come to Libya?
My reasons for coming here was to meet my husband's family. We got married in the Philippines and stayed there for four years and i deemed it unfair for my husband to not let his family see his wife and children. Reason two is to "find greener pastures" because one middle class family in the Philippines could not raise funds enough to start a good business there while here in Libya with a good paying job, a family man could thrive well with wise financial management.

2. What was your very first impression of Libya - the impressions you got on your very first day here?
My husband's family, especially his mother is amazing and they still are to me. We were welcomed with a big celebration, our house was ready and complete with all appliances we need, the pantry and fridge are fully stocked, and for our first month we were treated almost like royalties. The people were super accomodating.

3. What do you miss most from home?
Freedom and openess. Sun, sea, sky, malling, swimming and laughters of and with family or friends.

4. What did you expect to find here but didn't (and caused you dissapointment).
Freedom and openess. My husband told me that Libya has become more "open" now to western culture but then i find myself acting and living a certain way that is far from "open" and "westernized." I also expected to be able to leave my boys in the care of family members sometime when i want to go out but could not. It's not that they won't help but it's my own personal issue. I could not find myself able to entrust my boys to the care of family members here. So i am stuck 24/7 with the boys in the house and could only go out whenever my husband is available, that happens about twice or once a month and sometimes never, especially when my unlce is outside Tripoli. To think, back home i always go out with my boys - to visit my parents, go to malls, see friends, do some grocery shopping, etc.

5. How has your life changed since you came here?
I think i have become stronger and wiser. Being used to having a helper back home, I did not expect myself to survive almost 11 months now without a househelp here. I have become more domesticated and quite tamed, with vanities now stripped away from me by choice. My values have changed in such a way that i could not wait to go home and shower my parents with all the love, care and attention that they deserve to receive from a daughter. I am blessed by how Libyan women serve their husbands as well as their parents.


And here's the requisite tag:

If you'd like to play along, just follow these instructions:
1. Leave me a comment saying, "Interview me."
2. I will respond by emailing you five questions. I get to pick the questions.
3. You will update your blog with the answers to the questions. Be sure you link back to the original post.
4. You will include this explanation and an offer to interview someone else in the same post.
5. When others comment asking to be interviewed, you will ask them five questions.